All too often we will find ourselves focusing on the negative. In communication with your partner you may find yourself saying "Can you not pick up your phone at the dinner table?" This may be seen as a criticism and may not be well received. Try changing your word choice to "I would love it if you would wait until after dinner to answer any phone calls." This would be perceived as a suggestion as opposed to a criticism and therefore would be better received. You have the power to change your relationship by simply focusing on how you communicate with your partner. Be mindful, be positive, and enjoy the good feelings that will result on both sides of your relationship.