How we speak to each other in relationships can often determine how successful the relationship will be. Being positive and speaking positively to others will set those relationships up for success. This includes positive communication as validating and positive speech that will reinforce positive behavior. Simply said, if you want to see a behavior repeat itself compliment the behavior. Practice this exercise until it becomes second nature and your relationship will blossom. People generally love to be complimented and will often repeat behaviors should they be positively recognized.
All too often we will find ourselves focusing on the negative. In communication with your partner you may find yourself saying "Can you not pick up your phone at the dinner table?" This may be seen as a criticism and may not be well received. Try changing your word choice to "I would love it if you would wait until after dinner to answer any phone calls." This would be perceived as a suggestion as opposed to a criticism and therefore would be better received. You have the power to change your relationship by simply focusing on how you communicate with your partner. Be mindful, be positive, and enjoy the good feelings that will result on both sides of your relationship.
All too often we will find ourselves focusing on the negative. In communication with your partner you may find yourself saying "Can you not pick up your phone at the dinner table?" This may be seen as a criticism and may not be well received. Try changing your word choice to "I would love it if you would wait until after dinner to answer any phone calls." This would be perceived as a suggestion as opposed to a criticism and therefore would be better received. You have the power to change your relationship by simply focusing on how you communicate with your partner. Be mindful, be positive, and enjoy the good feelings that will result on both sides of your relationship.