A harder truth to face is that codependency when it comes to parenting can actually be seen as a form of abuse. It is abusive for a parent to require a child to take care of them. Yes, parents do the best they can, and how they parent will often depend on how they were raised. However there is a certain point where a person has to take responsibility for themselves and their behavior. A person who is codependent simply does not have those skills. When a child has needs or wants and their parents aren’t there emotionally, the child feels abandoned. They can not recognize their own needs or boundaries and have trouble forming and cultivating relationships. Typically people don’t know this is happening to them. Being aware of your needs take practice. Once you realize that you are only ok if someone else is ok, you can start to face your co-dependency.